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The Adventurous Couple's Guide to Strap-On Sex
Blue, Violet
Cleis Press
Author Violet Blue takes the mystery out of the Bend Over Boyfriend phenomenon (renamed "pegging" through a contest run by Dan Savage back in 2001). If you missed the trend (or the renaming ceremony), pegging is male-penetrative anal sex for straight couples. This fabulous, well-written guide not only takes the guess-work out of how to fuck your man up the ass, but it takes time to explain just why pegging is so popular, how to ask for it (for both the man and the woman), how to get suited up for it, and just how it works in general. From the detailed anatomy lesson to where to shop for a harness and a dildo (ahem), this is a very reassuring, very easy-to-read book. And the extra steamy little erotic tales (no pun... ok, yeah, it was intended) by Alison Tyler are sure to put you in the mood to try out what you've just learned! (2007, 144 pp.)

item MB-CLS-1394: $14.95 [Order]
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Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men and Women
Morin, Jack, Ph.D.
Yes (Down There)
An exploration of anal sexuality in an intelligent, non-sexist way. Sometimes called the "bible of anal sex," this is easily one of the most useful and informative books on the subject, and is highly recommended by sex experts and educators everywhere. This edition, the third, has been revised once again, and addresses power dynamics in relationships, anal sex other than intercourse, and finding a non-judgmental health care provider, as well as info on anatomy and relaxation and communication techniques. (1998, 269 pp.)

item MB-DTP-1197: $18.00 [Order]
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Cosmo's Aqua Kama Sutra: 25 Sex Positions for the Tub, Shower, Pool, and More
The Editors of Cosmopolitan, (Author), Lundberg, Bo (Illustrator)
Hearst Books
If you've ever tried to have sex in a pool, jacuzzi, shower or ocean, you might have found that it's not quite as easy as it looks. Cosmo's Aqua Kama Sutra is a positioning guide for those times when you want to have sex without drying off first. Each position is marked with a "lust locale" symbol and comes with "erotic instructions" (written directions), an drawing of two figures doing it, reasons why you'll love it and a "aqua extra" tip for making it even better (for example, suggesting that you time your thrusts with the ocean waves for more oomph!) Best of all, the whole thing's waterproof, meaning you can throw this slender little reference in your beach bag or bring it into the pool without worrying about the ink running. Our only complaint is that it could be organized better (all the different locales are interspersed together, making it potentially tricky to flip through all the various positions for one specific locale). But overall it's a brilliant little book that should help you figure out the best way for getting down and wet at the same time. (2006, 63 pp.)

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Fetish Sex: An Erotic Guide for Couples
Blue, Violet (with stories by Thomas Roche)
Daedalus Publishing
Do you have one thing that really turns you on? Then you may very well have what we call a fetish. In Fetish Sex author Violet Blue delves into the world of, well, fetish sex, beginning with questions such as "How do I know if I have a fetish or just an interest in something?" and "Does your lover have a fetish?", moving into suggestions on how to talk about these fetishes with your lover and incorporating the fetish into actual sex play. The last two-thirds of the book talk about the details: from role-playing to fetish wear to lists of the actual fetishes themselves, these chapters are fascinating both in their usefulness (the role-play chapter has a quiz you can fill out so you can clearly define exactly what you're looking for in a scene) and variety. Nearly every fetish you can think of (and we're betting some you never have!) is discussed at least briefly, and it can read either as a curiosity ("people really get off on that?") or a serious turn-on ("ooh, I like pony play, but I never thought about making an feeding trough for mine!") or both! And, speaking of serious turn-ons, we should note that this book is peppered with very hot short erotic stories about different fetishes, each one written by one of our favorite kinky writers, Thomas Roche. Good resource section at the back, too. A great book for exploring your own fetishes or even just expanding your fantasies. (2006, 223 pp.)

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The Smart Girl's Guide to Porn
Blue, Violet
Cleis Press
The estimable Violet Blue has written The Smart Girl's Guide to Porn, to help you in your search for just the right kind of hot, smutty scenes your little, er, heart, desires. She addresses some common concerns about what you're going to find in porn (alas, she can only recommend the fast-forward button for those ubiquitous money-shots), tells you how to find porn that suits your libido, and suggests different podcasts and websites where such elusive porn may be lurking. She also goes into issues you hardly ever see addressed, such as reconciling fantasy with your real life and how to maintain a good body image while watching impossibly perfect female bodies fuck onscreen. Overall, it's a great little book to help you demystify the world of porn and make it work for you. (2006, 137 pp.)

item MB-CLS-1334: $14.95 [Order]
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Tickle His Pickle: Your Hands-on Guide to Penis Pleasing
Allison, Dr. Sadie
If you'd like to get more comfortable pleasing the man in your erotic life, Dr. Sadie Allison's Tickle His Pickle: Your Hands-On Guide To Penis Pleasing is just the guidebook you need. With chapters on seducing a man, hair trimming, handjobs, blowjobs, butt play and more, not to mention sexy cartoon illustrations, this book is almost as fun to read as it is to put into practice. There's even a recipe to make your man's come taste sweeter! Dr. Allison knows her stuff, and this book is great as a beginner's manual or as a refresher course (though there are some tricks in here you might never have thought of) on making your favorite cock stand up and, er, shout with joy.

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Tricks... To Please A Woman
Wiseman, Jay
Greenery Press
This is a collection of some of the author's favorite tricks from the popular Tricks series (most of which are now sadly out of print). Loads of suggestions for fun, cool, sexy, innovative things to make women enjoy themselves more in bed . Some of these tricks made us slap ourselves on the forehead and say "Why didn't WE think of that?" and a few made us go "Duh! We knew that already!", but overall this is a fine collection of spiffy ideas for making sex more fun. We especially like #62 (and can't wait to try it — with our own variations! — at home!). There are even some sections on some of the basics of sex, like "how to clean toys after use" and "tips for responsible power exchange play." A neat little book to get your own ideas flowing, with plenty of room in the margins for notes (such as "ooh, honey, let's try this one" and "Mmmm, I bet that would work really well on me"). Buy your own copy and mark it up today! (2002, 148 pp.)

item MB-GRN-1051: $13.95 [Order]
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The Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy for Lesbians
Pepper, Rachel
Cleis Press
Yes, we know, it's not about sex per se — but sex has been known to lead to pregnancy on one or two occasions, so we decided to include this useful and informative book in our catalog anyway. Whether you're lesbian, bisexual, or heterosexual, if you're a woman who wants to get pregnant without a male partner, you'll find this book a big help. Includes info on many aspects of pregnancy — physical, legal, emotional, and logistical, to name but a few — from pre-conception (does thinking about getting pregnant count as a "pre-conceived notion?") to early babyhood. Thoroughly researched, clearly and humorously written.

Revised and Updated Edition (2005, 270 pp.)

item MB-CLS-1235: $16.95 [Order]
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